You’re Not Meant to Fit in a Box

Hello there,

For a long time, I thought I had to choose.

Was I an open water swimmer or a knitter?

Was I allowed to listen to Prodigy, Britney Spears, Mozart’s Requiem, and 90s house, all in the same playlist?

Could I wear combat boots and stilettos, depending on the day?

Could I be the kind of woman who thrives in the most extreme environments on Earth… …and also loves being tucked by the fire, reading romance and drinking tea?

For a long time, I thought all that made me inconsistent.

Confusing.

Too much.

But eventually, I realized...

I wasn’t the problem

The problem was that the people around me didn’t know where to put me.

I didn’t fit their categories.

And that made them uncomfortable.

Here’s what I know now:

You’re not meant to be one thing.

You’re allowed to be strategic and soft.

Wild and disciplined.

A high-performer who also binge-watches trash TV.

A leader who still doubts herself sometimes.

An Antarctic explorer who paints her toenails red.

You don’t need to collapse your complexity to be taken seriously.

You don’t need to choose between your sharpness and your softness.

And you definitely don’t need to earn the right to have fun being all of it.

You’re allowed to explore.

To try things.

To play.

To be curious about who you’re still becoming.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re too hard to define, good.

That means you’re still expanding.

Thanks for reading 🖤,

Aitana

P.S. What’s something about you that doesn’t “fit the box”?

Send me an email to hello@aitanaforcen.com

I’d love to hear it.

Let’s celebrate complexity together.